Ask A Character – Bennett 2
May17
Q. To Bennett: What was married life like? How did you meet your wife and end up married to her?
Bennett: We met in high school. Were both in the Young Conservatives. Went to prom together, and then got married, because that’s what you do, right? That’s what normal people do.
Married life was great, except for all the fighting, which sitcoms have taught me is also perfectly normal for heterosexual couples! And they say if you have a relationship problem, the best way to fix it is by getting pregnant — so we did, uh, that. Then there was a car crash and she lost the baby and we got divorced and I don’t want to talk about this anymore.
*pet pets Traumatized Bennett*
Thanks for giving us a bit more insight into Bennett’s past, Erin. This clears things up nicely.
That’s… really sad.
I remember Cybele saying that Bennett had a Cybele-shaped hole in his life. I’m glad that he was able to find her. (And also squee’ing that he was able to find someone to fill that Cohen-shaped hole in his life, wink wink, nudge nudge.)
Who was Cybele meant to replace, in taking that shape in her human form?
The unborn child. She takes on the age and sex that the kid would have been, while being physically different enough that it isn’t a painful reminder.
Relationships, gay or straight, involve a lot of fighting. The trick isn’t not fighting, it’s…. urg. Hard to put into words. It’s resolving conflicts without hurting each other? Except you do hurt each other, but then you forget about it because it’s less important? It’s the fights being less important than the good times? But that sounds like “Spousal abuse is O.K if you’re happy inbetween” and that’s not it either.
I really don’t know how to say it. There’s a balance, and you have to find it. I’d say ‘you’ll know when things are working’, but if you think things are working, you’re probably missing details, but if you’re not secure in your relationship that’s not good either.
Relationships are elaborate balancing games. Eventually you’ll find one that balances right.
Relationships don’t ALWAYS involve a lot of fighting! (For example, I know several long-term couples that don’t, including me and my boyfriend, who have almost never fought in seven years.) But it is normal for them to.
+1 upvote on the “balance” opinion. There’s a lot of give and take, and a lot of communication, and a lot of effort that has to go into noticing details that can lead up to a successful relationship.
But a LOT of people seem to think that getting married, moving in, or having a baby will fix the lack of those things. :(
Everyone is commenting mature,insightful comments about the comic and I’m over here like: SOBBING